I hope you don’t think that my natural hair journey has been a walk on beds of roses.
If you do, then I am literally choke laughing on the cup of wine in my hand.
My love! I do have struggles o but the beauty of it all, is overcoming the hurdles and getting right back up after every fall.
I lost a little of my edges again a few months back. Yep! no lies, it was the tension from my recent braid install and my careless handling. The great thing though is that I learn from my mistakes all the time.
Of course my edges are right back where I want them because I am more informed and now possess the “magic” edge product.
Infact, as I make this post, there is a beautiful braid like hair do on my pretty little head and this time, I am zero percent worried about hair loss. Little manipulation/tension equals Zero hair loss.
That aside, the main struggle that I am here to talk about, is that of the hair bonnet/scarf
Mehn, do those things have a mind of theirs! I honestly don’t want to be that chic who doesn’t practice what she preaches but on some really hectic days, the stress from picking up the bonnet discourages me.
Like fam! on those sort of days, sleep is the only thing on my mind. There is really no room for hair bonnets.
I have to make conscious efforts to include sleeping with my satin/ silk hair bonnet possible. Each time my morale/ strength is low, I remember every other effort I put into my hair TLC and the fear of wasting all of the valuable efforts put pulls me to the hair bonnet instantly.
Now, can we talk about how these things have a mind of their own?
When I got inducted into the nightly hair protection business, I was usually shocked to wake up every morning with my cute hair bonnet romancing the floor, next to the bed.
I didn’t understand it, I would ask myself……Titi, “sho ja ni nu Orun ni?” Meaning, Titi did you fight in your sleep?
What type of bonnet didn’t I try? The ones with rubber elastic, the ones bands you tie to secure, the ones you wrap and clip, please you just name it. None of them worked.
Then I started sleeping with two bonnets and that worked on some days, while on others it was a joke. Last last my brethren it is to buy a silk pillow case o, just for extra protection.
I have realized that this problem isn’t only a Titi problem. I recently saw a couple of hair enthusiasts speaking on this bonnet issue, and it was comforting to say the least.
The kind of money I have spent in my ultimate search for the perfect hair bonnet is enough to buy me one gorgeous Afro wig.
See ehn! The struggle still continues, though the hair bonnet saga is the most prominent of my struggles, I have quite a few others.
One of them is the process of detangling my hair, that shit is scary on some days. Let me tell you something about myself, I am not proud of, it is my impatience. Guys patience is one virtue I pray to God to help me with. You see my big mouth and sweet talk of combing my hair from tip to root is something I find difficult on some days.
Thankfully I am getting much better at this and I can feel my hair thanking me these days.
Finally! Let me cover my face for this one, getting trims can be a terror for me. This did me dirty for a while! Not seeing progress with my hair because I refused to let go of my weak ends in the name of length retention. After the hair spoke to me by breaking severely and failing to thrive, I learnt the hard way.
Now with every *neccessary* trim by my stylist, I usually go with the full armour of God.
So, what are your hair struggles love? You can finally identify them and become an over comer.
