Ever heard the saying 3 is a crowd?
I am about to redefine that saying in the marriage context. A union with 3 members in this case can never be crowded, Especially when Christ is a member and major shareholder of the Union.
Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” Matthew 19; 5,6
Marriage is such a beautiful and Sacred institution. It was definitely intended by our Almighty right from the beginning. There are scriptures in the Bible that tell us that God approves of this glorious institution with no reservations. It is one of his many gifts to us.
Jesus gives his word on the subject matter “divorce” in Matthew 19:7
And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.”
And when the Pharisees concluded it was better to remain unmarried he said to them
Not everyone can receive this saying, but only those to whom it is given. For there are eunuchs who have been so from birth, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. Let the one who is able to receive this receive it.” Matthew 19: 11,12
No doubt, there are people to whom marriage isn’t an option for a variety of reasons, however this has no bearing on our Heavenly Father’s pleasure when two of his are joined in holy matrimony.
As can be seen in the scripture above, he does not approve of the more rampant “divorce” in these times.
While I also feel that in addition to infidelity, domestic violence is a deal breaker. I believe anything outside of these can be made blissful and functional with little effort.
It goes way beyond a mere ceremony or titles, it is more about the alignment of two children of God who become one for his glory and purpose.
Taking the marriage institution very seriously is uber important, this point can honestly never be over emphasized. It’s not some bus you can jump on and come off at every slight discomfort. Infact the choice of a life partner could set the course of an individual’s life, therefore it is a most delicate decision.
But how really does one make the choice of a right partner?
People of God! If there is anything I have learnt about making the decision of a life partner, it would be to follow his leading. You can’t do this alone dear, what you are yet to see, the Lord has seen in multiple folds.
Please, never turn a deaf ear to his guide in the name of emotions.
Don’t you know who our Father is?
The one who knows the end before it even begins, how can he ever lead you astray?
Note that he can guide and clear our paths, but would never force his will on us. He moves only when we let him and lay all our worries at his feet.
I have a little story to tell guys
It is the story of how he led me to my dearest husband.
You see, as a medical doctor in my country, it is necessary to do a one year internship program prior to the service year.
During this life changing year, I was basking in the euphoria of being a fresh medical inductee and enjoying life the way I knew how best to.
Happy doesn’t cut it! I was elated, My dreams were finally playing out thanks to the one who saw me through Medical school.
Of course as a medical graduate and lady in my country, the next item to cross off the popular mental list was marriage.
While that sounded like a new and exciting adventure, I had barely experienced what it felt like to be in a proper relationship. My major prayer then was for a befitting boyfriend who would treat me right and take me seriously.
I won’t say I was actively searching, but I was flowing with the house job vibe and making new acquaintances.
A few young men had asked me out but they just didn’t feel right. I would never forget those James Bond days when I would scamper and hide from a certain resident in Anaesthesia because he was quite relentless in his efforts and annoyingly so. Regardless, I kept basking in the beauty of single hood and enjoying life as it came.
Then one beautiful November morning, my amazing Aunty of blessed memory; Mrs Aderinsola Badmus, put a call through to me. She had a message that had been burning her spirit and she was eager to relay it. She said and I quote;
“This season, someone special is coming your way. Don’t be too rigid.”
This was actually the most hilarious message I had ever heard. Though I gave the message my attention, It didn’t stop me from making several jokes about it.
I would ask incessantly, what season are you speaking of ma…..Christmas? or perhaps the new year lol!
Fast forward to January the next year, I met my husband; Tokunbo, in the heat of dumb founding stress at LUTH’s Neonatal unit (a pediatric unit for preterm babies and babies basically below 28 days of life).
He was sort of my boss at the unit and I seemed to be the only clueless one to his intentions. All that was on my mind at the time was my countdown to exiting the tedious unit.
As my departure from the unit drew nearer, I began to pay closer attention to this young and sweet man. My Aunty’s message came ringing in my ears for reasons illd rather withhold.
Like I mentioned, other people approached me during this period , but with him it felt more natural . There was no pressure whatsoever, and I was most definitely at peace.
Not to say there weren’t challenges o, Infact challenges yen por! The great God that however brought us together saw us through every single one. Best believe that his sustenance is continuous.
So here is the purpose of the post
I would like you to know that marriage is no walk in the park!
It takes a truck load of hard work and perseverance, coupled with tolerance from two different humans with backgrounds that might actually be worlds apart.
With God at the centre of the Union however, you can be rest assured that all would work out just fine, exceedingly above your expectations.
Peace be with you always, this post was made with love by TSJ ❤️
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